On Being A Good Partner

After reading Mrs. G's post about marriage, I am virtually stunned into silence by how right she got it. I say virtually because we all know I'm never actually stunned into silence.

You can keep your mountain-climing and salsa-dancing men, the one that really does it for me is the one who, when you call him when he's 3,000 miles away on business to tell him your mom has terminal cancer, says, "What do you need me to do?" And then keeps doing whatever it is you need him to do, forever.

If you also get dinner and a movie once in a while, that's icing on the cake. As always, thank you Mrs. G for making me think. And thanks to the Mr. Fix-it's, Mr. G's, and Military Men of the world for being good fathers, great husbands, and real men.

Comments

[Reluctant Blogger]

The juxtaposition of those two blogpost titles amused me a little - bad parenting and good partnering!

Yes, you are right. People who make a success of their marriages/relationships these days get so little mention in the press or even admiration from ordinary folk. We live in such a throw-away new-is-better culture these days that people just think that they should chuck out their current partner and find a new one the minute things start to seem a bit difficult or stale. And that is not a good way to live life. I'm not for the olden days when people stuck in marriages that clearly were never going to make them happy - but I think if you agree to be with someone, and have children, you should give it a good go for everybody's sake and not give up too easily. Quite often difficulties can be overcome and the relationship is probably stronger for having faced them.

I am full of admiration for all you lot who do have fulfilling and satisfying long-term relationships/marriages. Don't think I'll be joining you though - certainly not with a Real Man anyway!

[Amy the Mom]

I'm trying to write a post about how much I appreciate my husband, but I can't seem to nail it. I want to make sure I do him justice, but it keeps sounding frivolous. I like the simplicity and honesty in yours.

[Grandy]

Here Here!! Thanks for Sharing!!!

[Kellan]

Yes - that is a "real" man and a man worth loving!!! Take care - Kellan

[kcinnova]

AMEN!!

[Mary Alice]

Ahhh - a Big Amen, it's the little things, those ordinary things that bring the smiles to a long and happy life together. Military Man turned red and said ahh shucks for being included! Thanks.

[debbie]

Reading everyone else's posts about their husbands, at first, I was a bit jealous...and then I started paying more attention to what mine actually does, not to keep score or anything, but to just remind myself that I married this man for many reasons...and even though he is not as obvious, he does have his moments. You're so right...itIS the little things,the things that make me smile and make everything right that make it all good.

[Fannie]

There are good men out there. I know this because I married one. Here's to showing appreciation!

[mike golch]

Thank you for shareing this.I feel exactly about My Mrs.G as well.she is truely a great person.
We both have health issues.and we both take care of each other. Celestine(Mrs.G) was extremely supportive of me when My Mom passed away. Now she has to help me because of my seizures.for the past two years she has had to do all the driveing as well as doing the shopping by herself.I uses to do all the driveing and helped her with the shopping,now I'm pretty much home bound since the seizures will happen out of nowhere and we just can't risk me falling down and breaking something.