I read a lot of blogs (83 on my reader, plus all the links I follow; somebody stop me!) and a universal sentiment among Mommy Bloggers (sorry if the term offends you, I'm okay with it) is GUILT. WAHM's, WOHM's, SAHM's . . . everyone seems to have a case of the guilts and/or low self-esteem.
I really don't ever feel guilty. I think I'm a good mom, a good wife, a good person. I figure that I do my best and that your best is the most you can do. I know I'm not perfect, but I know nobody else is either, so I'm pretty sure that's how the system works.
How did I get to be this way? I have no idea. I didn't get it from my mother who was a guilt-ridden as they come. Honestly, I can't say that I had any role models in the "no guilt" department. Maybe this is one of those nature/nurture things. My dad doesn't feel guilt either and he abandoned a couple of families!
So when I happened upon this post at Party of 6, read her list and followed her links back, I thought "no problem." In fact, I'm going to see how quickly can I do it.
50 Things I Like About Myself
1. I am smart.
2. I am funny.
3. I am pretty (I know it's shallow, but there you have it).
4. I am a good mother.
5. I am a good wife.
6. I am a good aunt, sister, sister-in-law (you get the picture).
7. I am a dedicated student.
8. I am a gifted teacher.
9. I am an excellent cook.
10. I am a loyal, steadfast and fun friend.
11. I dress well.
12. I have made my house a warm and inviting environment through decorating (on a budget).
13. I stay on top of my laundry like nobody's business.
14. I am a good writer.
15. I challenged myself to write every day when I started this blog and I've done it.
16. I am a very fast reader.
17. I am frugal, but not cheap.
18. I am not materialistic (which is not to say I don't like nice things).
19. I am highly principled and I do not sell out (there are a couple of good stories attached to this).
20. When I want something I am dogged in my pursuit of it.
21. Even though I would like to be thinner, I have never let my weight (up or down) define me as a person.
22. I have not succumbed to my family legacy of addiction (I acknowledge this may be genetic luck on my part).
23. I am willing to try new things.
24. I am fun at a party--sometimes a little fun and sometimes lampshade on the head fun.
25. I think on my feet really well.
26. I have never been embarrassed to ask a question.
27. I always champion the underdog.
28. I have instilled the personality trait of empathy in all my children.
29. I am unabashedly liberal (and I think that's a good thing).
30. I bake kick-ass birthday and special occasion cakes.
31. I am good at math.
32. I would never stand by and watch someone be hurt or humiliated without interfering. Even if I had doubts about my personal safety.
33. I made sure my mother got her wish to die at home in her own bed.
34. I chose wisely when I picked my husband.
35. I am willing to admit that I love sappy Lifetime movies (even if that makes you judge me).
36. I am self-confident.
37. I am efficient.
38. I can be a fancy-pants Martha Stewart when I want to be, but I don't feel obligated to.
39. I've gotten straight A's for 60 units while still taking great care of my family.
40. I've taught a bunch of kids (not just my own) to swim in the ocean and ride bikes.
41. I can treat myself and never doubt that I'm worth it.
42. I once tore out my entire backyard and replanted it (with the help of a day laborer for the really big stuff) while my husband was out of the country for 2 months. I could never do it today, but I did it then.
43. I don't whine, I do what needs to be done.
44. I never thought having 4 kids was exceptionally hard work. (I'm not judging you if you do, I'm just saying it wasn't for me).
45. I'm open-minded.
46. The most important thing for me in regards to my kids is that they have happy lives. That means I want them to go to the college or do the the job they want to have, not the job I think they should have. Unless they want to be drug dealers or something.
47. I employ good grammar and punctuation. Kalynne Pudner and I might have a little disagreement about the evolution of whether or not it is appropriate to end a sentence with a preposition. I am of the (newer) school of thought that it is preferable to end a sentence with a preposition rather than to reword the sentence so that it sounds awkward, but doesn't end with a preposition.
48. I can text better than most 44 year old women.
49. I don't have angst over getting older. Never have. Which is not to say that it might not kick in at some point.
50. It only took me 14 minutes to come up with 50 things I like about myself (well, technically I guess it was 49 things).
I HOPE YOU THINK ABOUT PLAYING--THIS IS A GREAT EXERCISE.