I need to preface this by saying everything I said last Sunday was true and some of it may have been prescient.
On Saturday morning, I woke up to this text.
Her analysis of what happened is that she got so comfortable with food and enjoying it that the anorexic thoughts came rushing back with a vengeance. It started happening as she checked her bags to go back to school last Sunday. She's been eating 1,000 calories a day and lost 3 lbs.
She told us. SHE TOLD US!
She decided she needed to come home and I concurred. As she said, "If I am at home, knowing that you will make me eat will make it easy for me to decide to eat. I need that right now." We discussed when and concluded there was no time like the present.
By 7 a.m., I was shaking Mr. Fix-it awake. "Honey, honey, wake up. I'll explain later, but go take a shower. You need to drive to Flagstaff and bring Social Butterfly home."
Bless that man, he was on the road in 45 minutes. They got home in the early wee hours of Sunday and the picture above was what I saw in the morning.
Because the semester just started we should not have to pay tuition and I'm hopeful on the housing. She was going to pick her ski pass today, so I might even be able to get them to roll it over to next year.
The great news is that she recognized what she needed and was brave enough to ask for it. It truly is all anyone can want from someone in recovery--and, really, something more people in the world should do.
None of us are worried about her taking a semester off--it's a medical emergency, she'll go back, and since she started kindergarten at 4 years old, she's not even going to end up behind her peers.
The biggest thing I was worried about was how she would fill her time (she will start with a therapist and maybe a group, but that's a couple of hours a week max). She texted her former employer this morning with her availability to work and she went to work from 2-8 today. The local community college starts on 1/28 and has barely any open courses, but they do have Physical Anthropology and it's in the morning, so it won't even infringe on her work schedule.
I know there are some that would look on this as a failure of some sort, or sad, but I really consider it an amazing success and while there is some bittersweet as far as her not finishing the year at NAU, c'est la vie. It will all be fine in the end. It will be better than fine.