I think I covered the ground fairly well in my last post, but in the spirit of starting the New Year with explicit intention, I thought I would share mine for 2014. In a word . . .
One reason I spend a lot of time helping others is that I'm good at it (I'm sure there's a whole lot of pscyhologically-interesting backstory to this--adult child of alchoholics, front-row seat to a lot of mental illness since I was a child, etc.). Another reason is that I find that things that are interesting and easy (research, fighting insurance) for me are often difficult for others, so I jump in to offer my services.
I get tremendous satisfaction from the work and support I do in a variety of venues, so it's not like I'm selfless.
That said, I have recently seen that I do have a point where I begin to lose myself in the service of others and it's not good for me-which makes it in the end, not good for the others.
I often joke that it's good for one to be a Zen person, but better to have a friend like me who is the antethisis of Zen. I think I need to work on carving out some personal Zen in 2014.
While in 2014 I may change things about the way I operate in terms of helping others; I will always be thankful for all the good accomplished in 2013--and for lessons learned. How about you? Any lessons learned or changes to be made?
Happy New Year to all!