I am not, by nature, a person that lives in the moment. I'm the person that goes through life busily crossing things off a list. Being "in the moment" always sounded like a laudable goal, but not one that I fully understood or thought was achievable for a solid Type A like myself.
Then anorexia came into my life. Anorexia brought treatment, treatment brought dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) and DBt brought mindfulness--aka living in the moment.
Mindfulness has improved my life. I'm never going to be content to sit and meditate for half an hour every day, but I can be content with just being to a much greater degree than I would have ever thought possible.
Mindfulness is a learned skill and I got my training from an excellent therapist and I even had weekly homework to ensure I practiced. There are therapists that actually specialize in mindfulness practice and I might pursue this some day. I don't pretend to be mindful all day, every day and I'm still a Type A, but at least I now know how to live in the moment and I do it with regularity.
Saturday was my husband's company picnic. The setting was beautiful and the weather delightful, but let's be honest--going to a party when you know five out of a hundred people is a dicey proposition at best.
Then these guys showed up.
They sounded so good, I decided I would just be "in the moment" with the music. Curiously, the band really fed off my in the moment vibe which led to some fun interactions with the band (they wanted me to dance, but I said "Not without some of that tequila you've been singing about!", three separate songs for me throughout the afternoon (I don't know a lot of Spanish, but I do know a song sung to me that includes the words "bonita," "azul," and "ojos" is a compliment) and my taking some cool pics of the band and their instruments.
As long as I had my camera out, I couldn't resist focusing my lens on the kids--they're always in the moment!
And then . . . because it wasn't my work party . . . I snuck off, grabbed my bike from the van and took a lovely 8-mile spin around the bay--and I can guarantee you I was mindful of the warm sun, the cool breeze, the muscles I was using pedaling the bike and the snippets of laughter, conversation and end-of-summer joy that were all mine to appreciate just by being there.